When I was younger (since I’m super old now) I was quite arrogant. I did a decent job of keeping my arrogance locked up inside as judgmental thoughts, but not always. One of the most horrible things I have ever said in my life was to a classmate in high school. I believe at the time I was a sophomore and she was a junior. One important note about this girl is that she was a teenage mother with a very young child. At some point during the day I had punched a locker because I had gotten really upset about something. What it was, I have no idea. After unleashing my fury on said locker I was back in the classroom and something had sparked more emotion and frustration. I really wish I could remember what had me so upset. Anyway, during my second wave of frustration, that definitely included crying, she turned to me and said, “Why don’t you go punch another locker?” with an amazingly sarcastic tone. To which I screamed in reply, “WHY DON’T YOU GO HAVE ANOTHER BABY!?”
I said this because I looked down on her and anyone who had committed any “big” sins. You know, partying, having sex, smoking, and cussing. It’s funny to think back on how I viewed things like smoking as a sign that someone was definitely not a Christian. If only I had known how utterly fooled by Satan I was at that point in my life, I could have been a much brighter light during high school.
I do realize I am speaking in the past tense as if I never do this any more, which is definitely true. Especially if you don’t ask Jaala, my wife. Please don’t ask her. I don’t want her to rat me out. What was I saying again?
Oh yeah, my thoughts are better than your thoughts, or so I thought. I may only be 34, but I have been extremely humbled in regard to the way I view others and their opinions, and this has come mostly through my lovely wife. I seriously wonder how immature I would be to this day if I hadn’t married Jaala Joy Green. She has challenged my thought process, my worldview, and my empathy time-and-time again and I couldn’t be more thankful for it.
Proverbs 3:34 – “The Lord mocks the mockers but is gracious to the humble.” (NLT)
Humility is definitely a trait of a Misfit Man. The longer you live the more opportunities you have to look like an idiot. Trust me, God will keep his promises. If you want to be arrogant and proud, God will oppose and mock you. Solomon wrote about it, and Paul wrote about it, and Peter, and James.
Stop and think for a minute about how differently you feel about people who are humble versus people who are arrogant. Being around someone who is full of themselves can be equated with being locked in a box full of mosquitoes. The infuriating buzz of every boastful or insulting comment that goes across your ear. Every prideful action like a tiny bite on your skin, sucking the life out of you and then lingering on for days in your memory. Seriously, do you want to be that guy? Whenever you find yourself either being arrogant or on the verge of boasting just think, “Do I want to be a mosquito?”
Being around someone who is truly humble can be quite refreshing. Here are some of my tips for being truly humble.
- Start every day by reminding yourself who your Creator is. Where were you when He created the world?
- Accept praise and congratulations from others with a simple thank you. Deflecting praise isn’t the same as humility. You also don’t have to say something like, “It wasn’t me, it was God.” All your talent and gifting does come from God and if you are living your life like a Misfit Man it will be evident that you believe He gets all the praise and glory. You don’t have to say it every time someone says you did a good job to make it true.
- Don’t be a 1-upper. I wanna pull my hair out every time I hear someone say, “That’s nothin’! This one time…” I don’t care if you do have a better story than someone and it’s on the exact same topic, just keep your mouth shut! If someone went to a wilderness camp for a week and they want to tell you about it, just listen. You don’t have to tell them how you hiked the Appalachian trail for a month.
So why should you listen to me, or anyone else for that matter? Really, what you should be listening for is the voice of God. Sometimes that comes through His Word, God Himself, His Holy Spirit, or people in your life. I’m trying to write the words that God wants me to write in hopes that it will help someone. Sure, there are a billion blogs and another trillion books you could read, but I’m hoping that if you’ve found yourself here that it is because God is trying to say something to you, right here, right now.
God, humble me each and every day. Remind me that I am not more awesome than anyone else and that you deserve all the glory and honor, forever and ever. Amen.
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